Sometimes we just need a comfortable spot to stop and put up our feet. This is mine. Enjoy.

Thursday, July 3, 2008


Ever heard of Pandora.com? It's wonderful. I'm listening to my Ani DeFranco mix right now. I'm convinced they have everything.

This evening I spent quite a portion of it preparing for my husband's arrival tomorrow. I want him to feel very. . .welcomed home. Ladies - we sure go to a lot of work. However, in my more girly moments I admit to myself that I like it. I like preparing and painting my nails. I like sitting around listening to good music and plucking my eyebrows. I love the way my body feels after shaving. I can't wait for him to come home and smell my new scent - I mixed two fragrances from Bath and Body Works. Yummy. I shall be wearing something wonderful and I will have a great lunch prepared with a CD mix going on in the other room. I may have also picked up a few beverages.

An a slightly less private note - it seems like couples give up after a few years. Today at work people were talking about their spouses. To me it sounded like their other half just wanted a little attention. I told one guy to take home some flowers and maybe a treat that she likes and then not ask for "goodies." You see, she'll feel loved and not just sought-after and then she will come and get it; as it were. We ladies just like to know that we are cared about and that you really tried to do something sweet. This goes the other way too. I know that any man appreciates when his girl gets all fancy for him and makes him feel like a King. I don't understand why people can be so selfish.

My parents gave me two bits of advice when I got married. First, never make him guess what I'm thinking. Second, be nice. These two things have helped a lot. I'm far from perfect, but everyday I get up and try again. Everyone tells me that after _____ number of years that will change. That used to be a few, or five, but now that we've been together for almost nine (married for almost five), people have bumped that number up to ten or some other arbitrary number. I hope to prove you all wrong and to show that a gentle give-and-take is the best way. It helps to have the best husband of all the husbands.

This is a super-selfish post; I hope you'll forgive me. Wish me a good weekend.


Dragonfly said...

Sounds like two good rules.

Tea N. Crumpet said...

That is some great advice! You can't go wrong on those. I feel the same way. A while back I was telling a good friend who landed in prison over something very stupid how frustrated I was with my marriage. He is of course away from his wife and children and he told me that he hoped I wasn't thinking of leaving-- he acknowledged my stress and said that if I could make it work to try for two weeks without expecting compensation. (He and my husband are cut from the same fabric-- this would not have worked with my ex.) It worked-- my husband came around! We resume each day when he returns home with a 10 second kiss. That is also nice.

I love Pandora too-- I like to listen to the Fleetwood Mac station, but then go to Baroque Choral and flip around.